Ready To Live With A Doll(s) As A Sexual Playmate and Companion?

June 25, 2009

Through my readings and research, I have seen a couple of films about men and women who choose to live with costumized dolls as a companion and sexual playmate. I thought it was interesting how each of us differ from each other. Since The Pleasure Place came to being, I have learned not to be judgmental and prejudiced and to respect people’s diverse desires.

There is a company in Great Britain that takes orders on such dolls. They are made of porcelain and priced from $10,000 and up depending on the client’s specifications. These would include color of skin, height, weight, chest size and expression of facial features. Several pieces of oral, vaginal and anal passages are also included.

Let me recall the story of four different individuals/couples:

There was Sam, a computer scientist in his late twenties, who lives in Florida with his parents. He was not exactly good looking and looked rather thin. Actually, he struck me as someone who was shy and closeted. His parents accepted their son chose to live with a doll because they knew he was happy and fulfilled. He came home daily as if coming home to a wife/girlfriend. He chose a white doll with a voluptuous body and big round eyes. Let’s call her Samantha. Samantha shared his bed and his room looked liked it was filled with Samantha’s clothes, shoes, wigs, perfume, make-up. Samantha also joined them at the dinner table for a family dinner nightly. Sam claimed he loved her fully and would feel lost without her. He dresses her up in different sexy attires and wigs. He even lines her round eyes with black kohl and color her lips with the fiercest red shades. Samantha is his idea of a lifetime companion. Sam will have sex with Samantha daily and she will never complain no matter the time of day. He hugs and embraces her often, kisses her on the lips constantly telling her he loves her.

Then there was Mark and Mary, a married couple who lives in Great Britian.  Both were employed and enjoyed a great marriage. Let’s call their doll companion Laila. Laila was a dark haired beauty, perhaps one of the many wigs she donned at the time of the interview. She, like Samantha had a voluptuous body dressed beneath a ruffled top. They were interviewed while at the dinner table. Mark and Mary shared their bed with Laila and never failed to invite her to sit down with them at every meal. Mary was more attached to Laila than Mark and always insisted that Laila sit on her right every mealtime.

Let me tell you what I recalled about Ed. He worked as a lab scientist. Ed was never married and just lost his mother and was extremely depressed. He could not touch his mother’s possessions and kept her room exactly the way it was while she was alive. He would go in daily and dust off the dirt. He tried dating a few ladies but they would end up breaking his heart or take advantage of him. Then he heard of a guy who fabricated dolls and he decided to buy one and immediately found comfort in Shiela as a daily companion. He would dress her up conservatively and take rides with him to the supermarkets all dressed up with make-up. He enjoys shopping for Shiela in the ladies’ department for an assortment of lingerie, wigs, shoes, undies, daily changes and even perfume. A special trip would be to take Shiela with him in an airplane ride since Ed was an amateur pilot and loved to fly whenever the weather permitted. He felt completely fulfilled and found the perfect wife and companion in Shiela.

Finally, there was Tom. He was in his early 30’s, unattractive and was pockmarked with long dirty looking hair. He had a job of some sort but I can’t recall what it is he did.  He lived alone. He hated it when women chatted constantly and had too much to say on any one subject. He preferred them to stay quiet and to be obliging at all times. He had a few relationships but every woman took advantage of him. One borrowed a huge sum of money telling him she needed it to move to a new place. They dated a couple of times and she never showed up when he gave her the loan. One even told him he was ugly. Tom was different in the sense that he needed multiple dolls and introduced us to three while interviewed. He liked them to dress up ladylike and sat them down side by side on the sofa with him while watching television. He did not like them to have shoes on for according to him, shoes turned him off. They watched television a lot while he drank beer and one of the dolls would sit across his lap. Tom said the best part was the ladies were never jealous of each other and would indulge on his every whim and desire.

It’s up to you, my readers, to surmise what possible reasons why these individuals chose dolls as their companions and sexual playmates. I had not placed much thought on this subject until a couple of my clients at The Pleasure Place confided they were ready to have a doll as a third party on a sexual level. One girl was ready for a third party to have fun with her boyfriends but did not want to have another human playmate. Another heterosexual couple had a female playmate for a year and left them brokenhearted when she left to join another couple. It took them some time to recover from her absence. Which reinforces again and again that sex is universal and the people in the Philippines is not exempt to the world’s  diverse sexual pleasures.

Hundreds of Filipino couples I have talked to are already engaged in a threesone and group sex. They come in to share their stories with me. They are regular folks with ordinary lives. Some claim their children are grown and it’s time for them to enjoy themselves. One group of 6 couples have been practicing group sex for 5 years and keeps the group intact and private, unwilling to accept new couples. They have found excitement among themselves and did not want to shatter their perfect set-up. One of the ladies come in occasionally to purchase sexy lingerie for their sessions. I have not seen her though for over a year or missed her if she did visit.

Perhaps, for that lady who came in and wanted me to write about dolls stating her boyfriend and she are ready for a third party in the form of a doll might have something exciting lined up for themselves after all – for they are not alone. Perhaps, it’s the fear of emotional entanglement if they chose a third party in another human being. A doll would seem like a safe alternative.

We are not to judge others, however diverse their desires might be – allowing each of us to be true to our own desires is the only way to ultimate fulfillment and happiness.

I promise to be in touch sooner than you think with another interesting subject.

 

The Pleasure Place Website Is Finally Ready!!!

December 13, 2008

It is with great pride and joy to announce that we are finally going to launch our website www.pleasureplace.com.ph at exactly 8:00 am, Tuesday, December 16, 2008. 

It is only the beginning of what is more to come. You can check in every month and find something new and exciting to build up to a whole treasure chest of pleasures - - - children have toys — so do we!!! And the best thing about them is they do not get jealous with each other. In fact, they complement each other’s existence.

Write me at eleanorleung@yahoo.com and talk to me about anything you may wish to know about the site, it’s contents, etc. I will try my hardest to answer any of your questions the best I can. Share your bedroom joys so that I may pass them off to others so that they, too, can experience newfound pleasures.

Please bear with us should you experience any kind of problems with our site, whether it’s trying to check in/out, or not able to find the particular toy you are seeking to purchase. We did not want to delay the opening of our site any longer, so…..e-mail (eleanorleung@yahoo.com) immediately to let me know of your problems while shopping on our site, and we will make every effort to correct it immediately.

Our deepest gratitude to two of our nation’s top website designers, J.Lucas, j@designmanila.com and Bryan Zarzuela, bryan@boz consulting.com for designing the most sensuous website in the world. They won back to back awards for best website designs for McDonald’s Philippines and TeleServ, 2005 and 2006 respectively. My partner and I surfed the world to seek the best, and ended right here at home. We feared they may be too busy to entertain us. But they did get back to us and despite their busy schedule, placed us on a waitlist. We were ecstatic!!!

Now, more than a year of working and maturing through the process together, we have finally created a masterpiece! We hope you enjoy shopping on our site as much as we enjoy giving you numerous items of joy to choose from.

Happy online shopping!!!

More Updates on The Pleasure Place

August 7, 2008

We are proud to announce that The Pleasure Place, Boracay has reopened its doors to the public once more. We are located at D’Mall, Station 2. You wont miss us for we shine the brightest. And if you happen to be strolling down  the paved section of D’Mall, in the evening, our blue lights and colorful wares will lure you to us. We welcome you with fountains as you enter. We will soon be touted as the best place to shop in all of Boracay.

Why not, a two-piece beautiful and sexy bikini can be had for just 500 pesos, monokinis from 800-1500 pesos and a three-piece set with a beautiful wrap/sarong for 1,800 pesos. There are more to call out to you–earrings at 35 pesos,  pretty bangles and necklaces at unbelievably low prices, designer sunglasses at 500 pesos, and gorgeous hats to shield you from the sun at 380 pesos. Any woman can have a change of outfit every single day while at Boracay.

Before you run out to shop for sexy, feminine, beautiful, and most of all affordable beachwear, come visit us first at The Pleasure Place, Boracay. We have every style to fit every size from a size 0 to a Size 24.Catch Eleanor  from August 11-15, September 18-27 and again on October 27-November  8 and learn the various ways of wearing your outfits in and outside of the water. And of course, catch her for a lecture on the many toys The Pleasure Place carries. And have the best  and memorable sex on the island of Boracay.

Fantasies! Let Your Mind Do The Walking!

June 13, 2008

They are called fantasies for a reason-they belong to a realm of the fantastic. Like dreams, they need not be safe, politicaly correct, or coherent. Because our fantasies can fall so far afield of what we would consider doing in our normal daily lives, many couples are reticent to share them with each other, out of fear they will be judged. They is nothing that that says you should divulge your fantasies, and for many couples, keeping them private is the very key to their erotic charge. Yet, many find that sharing their fantasies introduces new erotic terrain to explore mentally, or in some cases, physically.

Here’s one for ladies out there to practice on: Come on in to The Pleasure Place and purchase what Miranda in Sex in the City popularized–The Jack Rabbit. It remains our number one sell since we opened our doors almost four years ago. The rabbit is perhaps the best toy used for self-pleasure and for interactive play. It’s called the rabbit because the rabbit’s ears acts as the clit stimulator that has a constant vibration. This is attached to a dildo or penetrator that rotates and vibrates. It’s a a dual dynano that operates on 4AA batteries. 

Have a date with yourself and choose whichever fantasy pleases you. Whip out the Rabbit, place a condom on the dildo, dab some lub and fantasize that you are about to have someone make you come countlessly. Penetrate yourself with the dildo and when comfortable, turn on the vibrator. Feel the dildo inside and imagine the person you chose to fantasize with today. When ready, turn on the clit stimulator. Shake your legs to get your juices going and running. It sure helps increase your desire. Keep fantasizing the person who is giving you these wonderful feelings between your legs. Perhaps, after several dates with yourself and your imaginary lover, you have mastered the game of the rabbit. If you do have a partner, you are now an expert on putting your very own porn show to turn him/her on. Not only that, you will now have the expertise to teach your lover how to make you achieve multiple orgasms as he watches himself pleasure you with the Rabbit. 

Remember ladies, the Rabbit’s ears is not only your toy. Turn it on and place it on the tip of his penis, run it down his shaft and further down to the triangle zone-the “P” spot, his most erogenous zone located between his testicles and anal passage. Run it on his nipples or any part of his body that pleasures him. Place the vib on your cheek or under your chin and give him the ultimate pleasure of a blow job. You will have him come back for more.

These are some of the fantasies people share with me:

“i like to fantasize when I ‘m walking around, in public places preferably.That way I can use my mind and imagination to get myself so worked up that I almost come without touching myself. And when I finally get myself alone, it’s guaranteed phenomenal masturbation.” When one of my visitors at The Pleasure Place confided that she can fantasize and work up such an excitement, I am sure she is not the only one in town who does that.

Another says, “it’s hard to talk about fantasies or new things I want to try. I am usually afraid either that I will be thought weird or sick, and that he will turn me down.” Another story, “my partner has had a hard time feeling safe to divulge her fantasies with me because I have none to share in return, I guess because I don’t really fantasize.”

 So, a bit of research to share with my readers about fantasies. . .

You’ve no doubt heard that the brain is our largest sex organ, but it may never have occurred to you that it’s also an incredibly versatile sex toy. Without the brain responding to stimuli and sending messages to the rest of the body, we’d have about as much sexual feeling as pieces of furniture. But it’s the brain’s capacity to house a vast resource of erotic imagery, known as fantasies, that makes it a powerful sex toy, since fantasies can be endlessly trapped for sexual pleasure.

Sexual fantasies, simply put, are mental pictures that trigger arousal. Their content, importantance and purpose vary greatly from person to person. Some people summon them when they want to be sexual, some people find they have little control over how and when their fantasies emerge, while others don’t fantasize at all.

Fantasizing, like masturbating, is an act of self-love as well as an assertion of sexual confidence and independence. You are responsible for turning yourself on; you don’t have to wait for someone else to do it.

A fantasy can be anything from flashing on an act or image.

“making love on a sailboat in the middle of the ocean under the hot sun with a breeze blowing”;  or, witnessing your lover coming in from a hard day’s work, his ex waiting with legs spread wide on the floor facing the door-he tosses his attache carelessly to the ground, quickly unzips his pants and take her right there on the floor”,

 ”being watched in a clear glass in a very crowded lesbian night club while my lover and I are having very agressive sex. We can’t see or hear the women watching us, but know they are all getting wet and turned on by what they see.”

 ”my fantasy is taking a shower with my husband watching. Slowly shampooing my hair, rinsing, then with a sponge working the soap down my whole body, showing him all the area of my body, bending over, washing my feet, and the using the shower head to rinse off the soap. It ends with him towel drying me all over.”

a more forced encounter kind if fantasy…

“my favorite fantasy centers on forcing a powerful man to an unwilling orgasm. I don’t necessarily need to be the one doing the action, but I want to see him struggle against feeling pressure, fight his bonds, writhes and finally succumbs to a greater force than his own.

Most people use fantasies to increase their sexual arousal, whether they are enjoying (or anticipating) sex with themselves or with a partner. Some people have one reliable  fantasy that they call upon when the mood hits. Others maintain a ready supply of favorites, while other still make up new fantasies as they go.

Fantasies are powerful aphrodisiacs because they offer people a chance to enjoy sexual activities they might not usually experience, or necessarily ever want to. Just as many of us engage in nonsexual fantasies (daydreaming), like living in a foreign land or being rich or famous, so too can we enjoy the thrill of some chance sexual encounter brought to us courtesy of our imaginations. For most of us, the knowledge that we won’t engage in these activities in our real lives only adds to the erotic charge of our fantasies. 

Whether it’s explicit or vague, short or long, kinky or common, if it gets you hot, it’s a fantasy. Try to use your brain to discover fantasies of your own!

 

Greetings! Update on the Latest Happenings at The Pleasure Place

June 12, 2008

I must apologize for not communicating and promise to do a better job at keeping in touch.

Other than business travels, I have been working hard on sumitting the necessary materials to J. Lucas and Bryan Zarzuela at Design Manila, responsible for building the most spectacular wesbiste in the world. Our site address will be pleasureplace,com,ph.

We hope to be able to serve Asia and the rest of the world with the best educational adult e-commerce site in the world.  Education on how to use the toys for solo or dual play will be linked from our site to this blog. We are also striving to create a chat room so that I can reach all of those out there who needs to talk to someone on the use of the toys or for those who wants to infuse more fire and excitement into their bedroom lives. We have surfed the world for the best website designers in the world and ended right back here. J and Bryan are two extremely talented and creative fellas who are devoting every ounce of their creative energy and spirit in helping us launch a website every Filipino can be proud of. Watch out for its launching. Will keep you posted on its progress on this blog.

I have recently started counselling to various individuals and couples. It all started very innocently as guests come to  The Pleasure Place. Invevitably, our conversations lead to more intimate subjects and a relationship is borne. By word of mouth, the number of requests are increasing. You can make your appointments through this blog, e-mail at eleanorleung@yahoo.com or text to 0917-880-5866. Counselling sessions are free of charge. I reiterate that I do not have formal sex education background nor am I a therapist. I reach people by sharing my experiences and those of others. 

 The Inquirer came to interview me a week ago and will be featuring The Pleasure Place at the attached glossy magazine on this Sunday’s Issue, June 15, so please grab a copy. (Its a must read !).

Our Boracay branch, located at D’Mall, Station 2, is undergoing a major facelifit to launch ‘eleanor‘ s swimwear.  We expect to re-open our doors around  July 28th. We are proud to announce The Pleasure Place, Boracay will be the best boutique that offers the only one-stop shopping in the island . Sexy bikinis/one-piece bathing suits, wraps, sunglasses, hats in every imaginable style and color, bangles, earrings, footwear, etc. is available at your fingertips for very little money. Any woman can look sexy and have a change of look and outfit for the duration of her stay in Boracay. So, the next time you visit, don’t forget to stop by to check us out.

I have been a contributing writer for Fudge Magazine since February this year. My column is entitled “it’s got to be real”. Grab a copy of this month’s issue. There  are tips on how to use adult toys,  the importance of lube, and my take on ’signs of healhy boundaries’.

Thoroughbread, lovingly baked daily, continues to thrive for those who are seriously conscious about good nutrition and health. My motto: ‘you are what you eat’. Text in orders if you are serious about purchasing half a loaf at 280 pesos or one whole loaf at 480 pesos. For diabetics who would prefer splenda to a teaspoon of honey and molasses, loaves are available at 580 each. We sell out daily.

Master the Techniques on Cunnilingus (Going Down on a Woman)

February 29, 2008

Daily at The Pleasure Place, the stories unfold again and again where women come in and whisper their frustrations of having to fake their orgasms. Confessions are never in the presence of their partners (one or two may brave in admitting it while the subject is up hoping it to be a means of communication). This is truly disconcerting because complaints from women are from all walks of life, married or with multiple partners, those who have an occasional one night stand or women whose main income is to sell their bodies for sex. They trek in daily hoping to catch me so I can help her pick out a toy to fill her sexual needs and to deal with her frustrations.

 Yesterday afternoon, I received a phone call from a 45 year-old woman who confided that she has never experienced an orgasm, much less know where her G-spot is. She has decided to seek the help of her gynecologist who recommended she visits the Pleasure Place to purchase a toy to aid her in the quest of experiencing orgasm. We made a date for another visit to the shop where I can give her a more thorough understanding on how to play with the toy or if  there is a need to purchase one with a stronger vibration.. She may also need to purchase an additional dildo if the the clit stimulator already purchased is not enough to satisfy her.

I encourage many to bring their partners so I can talk to them both. Some have partners who are willing to listen, accept their ignorance and make efforts. Others simply refuse to participate. The good news is most are willing to learn so that they may experience a newfound and lifelong experience of the joys of sex.

Thank God for Dr. Sadie Allison’s book on "Tickle His Pickle" on penis pleasing involving the use of toys. Once I demonstrate to the ladies on how to please their partners with a toy, this immediately lessens the threat most men feel. The toy now becomes not only "her toy", but "our toy". I have been able to convince most men who would listen that if they truly love their partner and wants to please them, a toy is just an added feature and not a replacement. That the toy is an accessory and not a warm up tool. He is respomsible for the warm up which means spending time on "foreplay". Which brings me to the subject of cunnilingus, one of many facets of foreplay. Once the technique is executed perfectly through practice, understanding and patience and in harmony with their partner’s rhythm, you will find satisfaction in watching your partner come, which in turn brings satisfaction to yourself.

The word cunnilingus comes from the latin cunnus meaning "vulva" and lingere meaning "to lick". But licking is only one of the many delight involved in cunnilingus. Your moist lips and mouth are capable of creating a uniquely subtle range of sensations. Sucking your partner’s clitoris, nuzzling her labia, and penetrating her vagina with your tongue or fingers can all enhance the experience of oral sex. As with any sexual activity, the same strokes won’t work for all, and the same women might prefer different types of stimulation depending on how aroused she is. Start by finding out what kind of clitoral stimulation your partner prefers: she might like you to lick or suck directly on the tip of her clitoris, to approach it from the underside, or to concentrate on the less-sensitive hooded side. She might favor a slow, gentle tonguing, or she might crave a ferocious licking. She might prefer feeling the tip of your tongue, the flat of your tongue, a circular motion, a lapping motion, or slight scraping of teeth. Here are some of what customers share with me:

"Tongues are usually soft enough and slick enough to feel good directly on my clit".

"I found that i simply needed the courage to grind into him, to get a more forceful touch from his tongue, in order to come completely. I overcome my shyness and really got off."

"The softness and delicacy of a tongue on my clitoris is heavenly. I love an indirect approach with lots of teasing–coming close, backing off, returning, etc."

 "If I am being eaten-out, it’s a total turn-on to have him pull me against him by wrapping his arms around my thighs and holding me tight as he licks me hard and fast."

Many women enjoy having the whole vulva licked, from pubic bone to perineum. Pay attention to the sensitive area around the urethra. You can insert your tongue in your partner’s vagina, though obviously the average tongue will only go so deep. Most women would much rather have their external genetalia tongued. Generally, it’s easier to use a finger or a dildo for penetration during oral sex.

"I enjoy the combined effect of licking my partner’s clit and penetrating her with a dildo. It arouses me to see her so turned on."

Bear in mind that as your partner approaches orgasm, she will probably appreciate a steady stimulation up to and through her orgasm. Many women need consistent, reliable stimulation to put them "over the top" and if you test-drive a brand new tongue stroke right before she’s about to come, it may not go over too well.

"I like cunnilingus because it calls me to be more subtle and adventurous in determinng where the locations of pleasure could be. The searching and ingesting quality is very exciting especially if she comes."

You may have read or heard mysterious warnings that you can actually kill a women during cunnilingus by blowing too frorcefully into her vagina. In fact, there is a medical literature describing cases in which oral sex has resulted in potentially fatal air embolisms. However, in every one of these unusal cases, there had been some damage to the uterine wall that allowed air to pass from the uterus into the bloodstream, for instance, the woman’s uterine lining was disrupted by an I.U.D. or in the majority of cases, she was pregnant. During pregnancy, the placenta produces enzymes that eat away part of the uterine wall, creating a pool of blood between the placenta and the uterine wall. Therefore, an embolism could result if a forceful blast of air makes its way through the cervix, beneath the edge of the placenta, and into the bloodstream. The embolisms, on occasion, proven fatal. However, these are exceedingly rare events. If you are going down on a pregnant partner, please rest assured that, as one doctor states "it would take a lot of force and a lot of air". Plain oral sex would not be a problem.

Experiment with positions to see which are most comfortable and pleasurable for the two of you. You may enjoy simply by lying between your partner’s legs, facing her vagina while she lies on her back. This position allows you to reach her upper body with your hands. You can try kneeling on the floor between her legs while she lies back on the bed or the sofa or the kitchen table or stands over you. Or you can lie on your back while your partner straddles your face. She will be free to move her pelvis and control the rhythm of the movement. This straddling position is popular both with those women whose arousal is enhanced by watchng their partner perform oral sex and those cunnilinguists who enjoy the sensation of being surrounded by their partner’s vulva.

"I love having my partner sit over my face, watching her lose control."

In any event, there are more possible positions for cunnilingus than we could ever name. You are limited only by your imagination.

There are truly no limit to the variations you can come up with when you are at eye-level with your partner’s vulva. Your hands are free to weild a dildo on your partner or vibrator on yourself. You can slip a finger in her vagina or anus, or both. Women who find their orgasms are more intense when the vagina is full may particularly enjoy having a dildo inserted during oral sex.

"My fantasy involves having my partner give me oral sex while his penis is inside me. but that seems impossible. My partner surprised me once by inserting a vibrator into my vagina and his fingers in my anus while licking my clitoris. This gave me one of the most memorable orgasms I’ve had, and I think this is as close to my fantasy as I will be able to get."

Try placing a vibrator across her labia while you suck on her clitoris. Or hold a battery vibrator against the underside of your tongue while you are licking, thus transforming your mouth into a sex toy. If that last idea makes your teeth hurt to even think about it, bear in mind that sound creates vibration, so you can create a similar, slightly less dramatic effect by humming and purring while you lick. 

Before I leave this topic, I would like to think that every woman and every lover of women should experience the pleasure of cunnilingus. That women’s genitals are more hidden than men’s has exaggerated a sense of mystery, and in some cases, a certain fear and disgust toward what’s down there " between a woman’s legs. When you go down on a woman, you are bringing all your senses to bear on an appreciation and admiration of her genitals. When you invite someone to go down on you, you are affirming your entire body is worthy of tender attention.

"I am a huge fan of cunnillungus. Sometimes it takes a while for me to really let go and get into it, but wow! It feels so cool that someone is worshipping every part of me!"

After hearing comments from women of all ages, sexual preference, old and young alike, this reaffirms that every woman has her very own set of desires and should set out to enjoy every fantasy.

Come in to The Pleasure Place if you would like to have a heart-to-heart talk with me. I can assist in the selection from a wide range of toys to fulfill any of your desires. 

 

On my next topic, let’s not leave the boys out. You will learn techniques on Fellatio, derived from the Latin verb fellare, "TO SUCK." 

Fudge Magazine. February 2008 Issue Has Released My First Monthly Column

February 10, 2008

 

 Entitled Got To Be Real….check it out on pages 54-57

Fudge is a monthly magazine focusing on popular culture and pop lifestyle. They are the flagship publication of Sesame Seed Creatives, Inc., an independent company affiliated with the Manila Bulletin.

Fudge magazine targets co-gender readers from the 18-35 age group, belonging to Class A to broad B with expendable income.  Each issue tackles the common Pinoy lifestyle preoccupations to popular entertainment and everything in between.  The voice of Fudge magazine is very hip; coverage is presented in post-modernist art and stunning visual design inspired by maverick publications in Europe (Beople,Raygun), Japan (Tokion), and the US (Fader).

 

A new experience–better late than never…..

Never did I imagine I would write so people can read what I have to say. I always treated my writings as ordinary as daily conversations with everyone I come across daily. More than ever, I have to express myself in the most straightforward, honest, down-to-earth way to ensure I continue to win a wider audience of listeners and readers who would inspire me with a dedication to nurturing sexual development and pleasure.

Thank you to my staff at The Pleasure Place, for your hard work and dedication.

Thank you Annie Alejo, editor-in-chief for Fudge, for giving me the opportunity to be heard. Thank you to Anna Gan, Managing Editor, for being so delightful to work with. Many many thanks to the whole team at Fudge for putting together the most beautiful design.

 Thank you to my parents for  nurturing my intellectual curiosity, always allowing me to be who I am and encouraging me to make my own decisions, even if you did not like them.

Thank you to my sisters, Kathy and Jen, and brother Alfred, who always believed in me. That I can make anything happen.

 And thank you to My love, for offering me so much love and support, and sharing your life with me.

LOVE IS IN THE AIR AGAIN!!! VALENTINE’S DAY IS AROUND THE CORNER

February 3, 2008

 

Maxim Magazine, February 2008 issue, has devoted two pages of the most fun, enjoyable and affordable toys The Pleasure Place has to offer. Entitled ‘Come Out and Play", check it out on pages 40-41.

Tips to Surprise Your Lover on Valentine

Come in to The Pleasure Place and purchase one of our many small bullets or clit stimulators, the pleasure feather and the all-important essential-lube!

For Her: Blindfold her. Pour a few drops of lube on her nipples and clit. Let your fingers do the loving. Do all you know in the book on caressing and kissing her in the right places with a pleasure feather. Make sure you pleasure her in slow, long strokes and stay in one spot for 2 minutes to get her fully satisfied before moving on to the next erogenous zone. Turn on the vibe and surprise her; let it buzz for a while to hype up her curiosity and excitement. Follow your instinct and place the small vibe on every place you think will bring her to ecstasy.

For Him: Blindfold him. You must know by now what turns your man on. Touch and carress him in places you have been to many times before. This time with more feelings. Turn the vibe on and surprise him. Place it against the side of your cheeks or under your chin and give him head. Then move the small and powerful vibe to his P spot. It’s situated between his testicles and his anal passage. Watch him sqirm in delight and wait for his next adventure with you.

Hi, to all of you who has logged in and to all those logging in for the first time. Since I have so many readers looking forward to my articles, I have to work harder on updating this blog so that many more can experience the joys of sexual pleasures. All those I come in contact with are ready to have fun, explore and open up their minds to a more exciting sex life. 

All that is needed is a bit of advice, instruction, encouragement and fun and easy to learn tips. I have said this many times before and I will say it again to those who have not heard it: Discover and explore your own bodies first. It is only then you can teach your lover/s how to please you. For you can only bring pleasure to others if you know first hand what pleasures are about.

A lot of thoughts have gone into choosing each topic carefully for your pleasure and to enrich your sexual lives. I do my best to approach every subject with accurate information, but that does not mean I may not be wrong once in a while. So, please feel free to write me if I am; or write and tell me your experiences so that I may share your sexual joys and sorrows with others.

Love is in the air again! It is particularly this time of year we all rejoice and are thankful for being loved and to love. It is being alive!

Know this too. It does not mean that being in love makes you a great lover.To be a great lover means learning the techniques of how to please ones self and your partner. Just like everything else, it takes patience and lots of practice.

So dive right in and find a whole avenue of pleasures! 

Tune in for my next topic: Cunnilingus. It comes from the Latin cunnus meaning "vulva" and lingere meaning "to lick".

 

This blog is dedicated to all of you out there. I can only impove daily through your inputs, experiences, my research and readings and daily contact to those who visit my shop. 

A Journey Into The Anal Passage and The Pleasure That Awaits For Those Who Dare Enter

January 22, 2008

Since The Pleasure Place opened its doors a little over four years ago, I have been enriched in the knowledge that all kinds of sexplay is universal and been in existence since time immemorial. Anal toys are the fastest selling items on our shelves and leaves our store discreetly. Until six months ago, a barrier has broken and customers who walk in are willing to talk about their practices of anal play. Again, I had the privelige of learning through my customers just how enjoyable anal penetration can be, or how tormenting for those who attempt without learning the process or simply learning to say "no" until the anus is prepped and ready. To further educate those who are completely ignorant about the subject or to further give accurate information to all those who want to explore anal play, I have researched vastly on the subject.

Anal penetration should be pleasurable and not inflict pain. if you feel plain, then something is not right and the act of penetration should immediately  be brought to a halt! More later on how to…..

 First, here are important information to those who are skittish and homophobic on the subject–

 There are just as many physiological reasons for both men and women to enjoy anal penetration as there are for women to enjoy vaginal penetration. The anus is rich in nerve endings and participates with our genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension, and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm. Pressure and fullness in the rectum feels pleasurable to some men and women, just as vaginal fullness feels pleasurable to some women. Anal stimulation can stimulate both the perineal area and G-spot in women and the bulb of the penis and prostate gland in men. Many of us find anal stimulation intensely pleasurable.

 "I enjoy both vaginal and anal penetration. I think my anus is more sensitive than my vagina, and I don’t admit this to a lot of people." - I have been told this over and over daily at The Pleasure Place.

 You may already have discovered that anal stimulation greatly enhances and intensifies masturbation, oral sex or intercourse. After all, it’s hard to miss that power-packed little bud of erogenous sensitivity located only inches from your genetals. Anal stimulation is an integral part of many people’s sex lives. Some individuals with disabilities that numb sensation in their genitals retain the capacity for pleasurable sensation in the anus. Women who have grown to be uninterested in vaginal penetration, perhaps after childbirth or with the onset of menopause, may prefer exploring anal penetration. Anal penetration offers men the experience of being physically entered, while countless men and women alike describe anal penetration as being a uniquely relaxing and meditative experience.

Despite these physical truths, those of us who enjoy anal play are understandbly reluctant to stand up and be counted. From the tme we were old enough to start toilet-training, we were taught that the anus is the dirtiest part of our bodies and that it needs to be brought under strict control. The same orifice that was a source of innocent pleasure during intimacy becomes a source of shame and confusion in childhood. Many of us learn to hold a lot of tension in our anus, and the resulting health problems such as constipation or hemorrhoids convince us that the anus is, at best, a neutal area and, at worst, a painful one. It’s no wonder that many adults are unable to conceive of the anus as an erogenous zone. 

" As for anal penetration I’ve never tried it because it seems kind of awful. Doesn’t appeal to me personally though people I know enjoy it." - More comments from those who visit The Pleasure Place.

Although our focus here is encouraging you to get to know and love your anus, we should note that feelings of shame and transgression can be highly erotic, and that some people doubtless enjoy anal play in part because they feel they’re messing around where they shouldn’t. If the anal taboo is is preventing you from taking pleasure in this sensitive and stimulating portion of your anatomy, we hope the information I offer will help you overcome your negative associations. But if the anal taboo is enhancing your pleasure, let me assure you that anal play is naughty, kinky, and downright nasty.

Some factors that prevent people from anal play are:

Fear of Feces: Probably the most common factor that prevents most people from experimenting anal play is sthe fear of encountering feces. To address this appropriately, let’s review a little anatomy. The anal passage is less than an inch long and leads into the rectum, which is anywhere from five to nine inches long. The rectum, leads in turn, to the colon, which is where feces acculumate until you are ready to defacate. The rectum is also a passageway, not a storage place, so it’s unlikely you will come across more than a few traces of feces in the course of your explorations. The fact that the rectum’s sexual status suffers due to its participation in the digestive process is somewhat arbitrary. After all, the digestive process starts with your mouth, and nobody considers kissing a disgusting activity. If still skittish, you may want to take a bath together before indulging in anal play, or better yet, you could pop on a latex glove or condom before making your first foray. Some people feel more confident if they rinse their rectum out with water, using an enema. Unless you are preparing for some deep penetration or anal fisting (a topic for later), we would not encourage the use of enemas.

Fear of Disease: The second primary inhibitor to anal experimentation is the fear of disease transmission. Anal sex is so linked  in the popular imagination with gay male sex, and the gay male sex has unfortunately been linked with HIV transmission, that many people assume that anal sex in and of itself will cause disease. Neither of these associations is particularly logical. Plenty of gay men never engage in anal intervourse, and plenty of heterosexuals and lesbians do. Specific activities do not transmit disease; viruses transmit disease. Unprotected anal intercourse, like unprotected vaginal intercourse, is simply one way in which someone infected with an STD can conceivably transmit it to his partner.

The lining of the rectum is considerably more delicate and richer in blood vessels than the walls of the vagina, so it’s easy to scratch and easy for bodily fluids to pass from the rectum into your bloodstream. You should never insert anything into your anus that does not have a completely smooth surface, and you should never engage in penis-anus intercourse without putting a condom on the penis, unless you and your partner have both been tested negative for STDs. To prevent possible bacterial infections, never switch your attentions from a woman’s anus into her vagina without stoping to wash your hands, change your glove, or change your condom.

"Forget my behind; that’s not a turn-on for me. If someone messes with it, I scrub off immediately." -More comments from those who come to The Pleasure Place.

 Homophobia: Anal sex is inextricably linked in many people’s minds with gay male sex. "I have occasional anxiety about the homosexual act of anal play, but I like the forbidden nature. "I’ve discovered that I really enjoy anal penetration, but I’m afraid my wife thinks I’m going gay."

All three comments above are discussed and heard daily at The Pleasure Place. 

This is just one more manifestation of the tyranny of the notion that intercourse is the main event of any sexual encounter. If by definition sex presumes sticking a penis into a vagina, then gays and lesbians are presumed to stimulate this one "true" sex act by engaging in anal intercourse or by strapping on dildos to penetrate each other. There are gay men who never engage in anal intercourse, lesbians who has never seen a dildo, and  heterosexual couples who love anal sex. The fact that the taboo against anal sex is partially motivated by homophobia is one more example on how homophobia restricts not only the freedom of gay people, but ultimately the freedom of all sexual people.

Anal Do’s

DO RELAX: The anus is ringed by two sphincter muscles, one right on top of the other. The external sphincter is the one you voluntarily control when you allow yourself to defacate. The internal sphincter is involuntary. This muscle will tighten up reflexively if you try to force yourself into your anus, resulting into the excruciatingly sharp pain familiar to anyone who has rushed anal penetration. With practice and patience, it’s possible to gain some control over this internal sphincter, but it will always serve as the guardian of the gateway, tensing up if you try to insert too much too soon.

Before you try to incorporate anal play into sex with a partner, set aside time to do some anal exploration yourself. Lubricate both your finger and anus and position your finger at the anal opening. Concentrate on your breathing. Inhale and tighten your pelvic muscles, exhale and release those muscles. As you exhale, try bearing down slightly with those muscles, and sweep the top of your fingers into your anus. Leave your finger in place while you continue to exhale and inhale. You should be able to feel the two sphincter muscles contracting and releasing around your fingertip. If you are comfortable with the way your fingertips feels, you may want to insert your fingers all the way to your rectum. Try moving uyour finger in and out or in a circular movement. You will probably find it pleasant to angle your finger toward the front of your body: toward the perineal sponge and G-spot for women and toward the bulb of the penis and prostrate in men. Maintain a relaxed pace. If anything hurts or causes your muscles to tense up, stop moving and stop what you are doing altogether.

The point is to enjoy yourself and to learn about what feels good.

DO USE LUBE: The anal and rectum do not produce any lubrication of their own and you absolutely must use some kind of lubricant anytime you engage in anal penetration. (The Pleasure Place has a wide variety of anal lubes to choose from). Shop for thicker varieties of water-based lubricant and use them lavishly.

DO RESPECT YOUR ANATOMY: The anus and rectum are made of smooth , highly expandable tissue, so its physiologically possible for your rectum to expand to accommodate an entire hand if you are anesthetized during surgery or if you are a practioner of anal fisting. You may be perfectly hapy with a pinkie’s worth of anal attention or you may enjoy anal intercourse with a large dildo. If you insert anything longer than nine inches, you’ll come to the entrance of your colon. Devotees of deep anal fisting may wish to dvelve into the colon, but average aficionados of anal penetration are happy to restrict their paddling to the relative shallow of the rectum.

DO USE COMMON SENSE: Anything that goes into the anus must be smooth, seamless and free of rough, scratch edges. It’s all too easy to damage the delicate tissue lining the rectum. You should also make sure there is no way you can lose hold of whatever is going into you anus. The vibrator or butt plug should have a flared base, so that if you let go, it won’t slip out of reach into your rectum. If you do happen to let a toy slip into you, it’s more than likely that if you wait patiently in a relaxed position, it will come back out the way it came in. Many of us, however, find it hard to be patient and relaxed with a rudderless sex toy on the loose in our bodies, and in certain instances, the toy can get pushed into the colon, at which time surgical intervention will be necessary to remove it.

DO COMMUNICATE:  If you are on the receiving end of anal penetration from a partner, you should feel as much in control as you do during solo play. It’s up to you to help your partner negotiate your rectum safely and comfortably. Communicate about what feels goo, and let your partner know immediately if you feel pain. Anal play can be an extremely intimate encounter with a partner, provided you trust each other sufficiently enough to relax and enjoy.

 As for anal fisting, the number of people who practice this almost spiritual sexplay is still small in mumber. The above information is not sufficient for those who would like to experiement anal fisting. If you are interested in learning more about fisting, I recommend that you track down an excellent book devoted to the subject, Trust:, The Hand Book.

 

Anal Toys 

Discovering ways to pleasure your anus needs another exploratory date with yourself. Take the time to identify your personal preferences before you go out and buy an anal toy. Do you like the sensation of a finger or two inserted into your anus. Then you may want to buy an anal plug. Do you like a finger moving in and out of your rectum, or do you prefer holding is stil? Of you prefer movement, you might want to buy anal beads, a slim rippled plug, or a dildo. If you prefer no movement, ytou might be happier with a diamond-shaped plug. As with a dildo, the most important part aspect of selecting an anal toy is deciding which size to get. Plugs range in diameter from pinky-slim to fist-wide, so you won’t lack for options. Do your homework and base your selection on fact rather than fantasy.

 More Comments From Visitors at The Pleasure Place

"Sometimes while masturbating I use a small plug for prostrate stimulation"

"My wife enjoys inserting a plug while we are proceeding towards orgasm"

"I enjoy inserting dildos into my boyfriend’s anus. I also insert butt plugs to relax him in preparation for a dildo"

"I have a vibrating anal plug of which I am quite fond. I don’t much care for a penis in my ass, as they tend to want to stroke in and out, and I prefer just to be filled"

"I’ve been anally penetrated with fingers, dildo, vibrating plug, and beads, all with enjoyment, but not at the moment of orgasm. A finger in muy butt inserted when I orgasm is okay, but the others draw my focus too much and I don’t seem to be able to have as exquisite a sensation. But they all get me very excited"

 

If you have had as much fun playing with anal toys as we’ve had selling them, you’re destined for a good time. It’s a pleasure to challenge our society’s irrational taboos anal sex, to spread the word that anal sex is safe and stimulating, and to celebrate the sheer entertainment value of the subject matter. As more and more people around the country are discovering, anal toys are sex accessories than be both fun and funny.

 

Come in to The Pleasure Place and let your imagination wander. Come in to explore, to chat with others, or to meet me in person so I can gain more insight into people’s sex lives that enables me to post accurate information such as this topic. Or, come in to simply feel alive!

 

"Tickle His Pickle", An Ongoing Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing -

November 10, 2007

 Be Understanding—Some of You May Have "A Forever Man''

Your wrist is breaking. Your jaw is aching. Your neck is shaking. And still no quake-ing. Why doesn't he come already!

Even if you have tried every rhythm, stroke and caress in the book, some guys just take a long time. And some may never come at all. Maybe he needs intercourse. Maybe he can't come in a condom. Maybe he's never comfortable with his own hand. Or maybe he just needs time to build trust in you.

You should not take this personally–you are arousing him. He's just unable to cross the finish line. Try asking him if there's anything else he'd like you to try. Perhaps he'd like to show you his favorite stroke himself. Perhaps he is overstimulated and needs a short break to reset. It could be a prescription medication causing the marathon. Or maybe he simply needs to focus his mind on you and not on life's stresses.

 

The Pleasure Place has celebrated it's fourth year this November. And guess what? I have sold tons of vibrators to men and women through friendly lectures and conversations. But what amazes me is the discreet, quiet disappearance of anal toys and butt plugs from our shelves. It's surprising how so many totally heterosexual guys will get squeamish if you even hint you'd like to try buttplay on them–especially since they are always so gung-ho to do it to you!

Yet, anal sex is now more popular than ever among straight men and women today. If you would like to try it, you will find everything you need to know by following this blog safely and securely (or better still, come in and grab the last few books in stock entitled "Tickle His Pickle.") It contains tons of illustrations and pictures for those who need more graphics to learn from.

 "I tried it once and it didn't feel good." (it's all about technique, lover.)

"It's an exit, not an entrance." (it can be both, safely and pleasurably.)

"It's for gay men." (Not when he's naked with a ravishing woman like you!)

Some guys love to be touched down there. Some like to be penetrated down there. And others want you to stay the heck away–although it helps to reassure them this does not make them the least bit homosexual.

Every guy has a prostrate, ready to provide many highly pleasurable, direct stimulation orgasms. You can initiate buttplay by expressing your desires to your guy. But as always, be sure to respect his wishes. If he's still not interested–even after you have enlightened him–that's okay, too.

And since this is one area where you can know exactly how your own touch feels, why not pleasure yourself  there first to see how you like it! 

The best way to start would be to calm his biggest fears.

 

A peek into what you are about to uncover…….

 

Over 50 sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking

Try this:

 

Vibe Him: Place a cylindrical vibrator over his balls, or whichever part of his manhood is not in your month! Then alternate your tongue and a vibe on his penis.

Penis Alarm Clock: Place a strong mint or menthol cough drop in your mouth-along with his penis! The minty or menthol sensation can awaken the nerve endings even more.

Arousing sex tips that will supercharge his orgasms 

Try this:

Grab a miniscule popsicle out of the freezer and give your guy a visual demonstration of what you are about to do to him. Then hand it to him to eat as you head south! 

 Try This: 

Two Thumbs Up:Straddling yourself over his legs, wrap both hands around his shaft, placing the fingerprints from both your thumbs directly on his V-spot. Now massage that V-spot on small circular motions till it stands for Victory!

 or

Three Pointers: With his erection aimed at his bellybutton, keep stroking your open palm up along its underside. If his love juice lands inside his belly button, you get three points.

or

All-Over Massage: Lube up both your hands completely. Now massage everything, from his belly button down to his inner thighs. As you glide over his skin, begin focusing more and more attention on his penis, balls and taint. 

How to fulfill his erotic fantasies (so he'll beg for more)

 A tiny erogenous zone that triggers king-sized climaxes (Do you guys and ladies know that guys have a "P" spot just like girls have a "G" spot", although it's not the same as yours. The "prostrate" creates and stores the ejaculatory fluid that ultimately carries his sperm to you. Since massaging the prostrate can make his orgasms feel more amazing than ever, it's worth feeling your guy out to see if he wants to be felt out. You can find it a few inches inside his anus. If he is not yet relaxed enough to desire your finger inside, you can still caress his P-spot from the outside. Its' nicknamed the "taint." More on this later…..

Top 10 tips to avoid the biggest penis no-no's

Plus many more turn-ons for both of you!  (Do you know that men love having their penises touched, licked, rubbed, fondled, tugged, squeezed, blown on and talked to. Try sleeping with it in your hand!)

 

What you are about to read, learn and master are lessons and tips from America's Pleasure Coach, Dr. Sadie Allison. Her books, Tickle Your Fancy, Toygasms!, and Tickle His Pickle instantly zoomed up the charts and became national bestsellers, each receiving the prestigious Independent Publishers Best Sexually Book Award.

 Foreplay

Welcome to the following pages that's all about your guy's pickle. Whether it's dilled or candied, now that you are between the sheets, let's call it precisely what is is: a penis.

What does he really want me to do? Dr. Allison has spent years looking behind the bulge, asking, touching, playing, investigating, fondling and the following are her reports on all she has uncovered. You will learn exactly what most guys want, hope and dreams you'll do (and a few things they pray you don't!). Then you can decide to try the things that turn you on, too-even if your own guy is too quiet, polite or shy to ask. Dr. Allison guarantees he won't know what hit him and what got into you.

Welcome to Penis School

Open up your minds, get comfortable and let go of those inhibitions. If penis pleasing is new to you, you are about to discover the secrets some women never learn in a lifetime. If you are experienced, Welcome! You are sure to see lots of exotic new techniques that will melt your lover into your hands. If you are gay-you will pick up some great pointers here. Try only what you are comfortable doing, and advance at your own pace. Talk. Experiment. Laugh. Love. Practice. Improvise. Orgasm. And when you find what works for him-and you-do it again!

Whether you are dating for now or mating for life, no matter what your looks, age or physique, you are going to learn to keep that glow in your lover's eyes while you start feeling even sexier inside. And whether your relationship is blissful or bumpy, you will see how it can be a lot more loving and affectionate inside the bedroom and out.

 Let's Talk About You

Do you and your guy get into bed and conk out? And let your distractions follow you to bed? What happened to love? To lovemaking? To your love life?

What if you start dazzling him with your new strokes, touches and licks that render him speechless with mind-blowing orgasms? Would you get his attention? Would you reignite desire? None of all these advise will work for you unless you put yourself into the "moment". So ask yourself: are passion, pleasure, romance, affection, love and orgasms what you want in your life?

Sharpen Your Pleasure Focus

Start making a conscious effort to tune out the negative PITs-Pleasure Interrupting thoughts at the exact moment they intrude. Don't let them rob you of your lusty moments together. Create your own personal oasis: Lock the door. Unplug the phone. Turn off the TV, cell and computer. Treat yourself to a hot bubble bath. Light a scented candle, pop in your favorite CD and feel the groove. Read an erotic story. Pleasure yourself.

Get rid of the notion that NICE GIRLS DON'T. On the contrary, nice girls DO-you may simply be ready to move on to the next phase of your adult life. Remember: THERE IS NOTHING DIRTY ABOUT SEX-IT'S ONE OF LIFE'S GREATEST GIFTS TO YOU.

YOU ARE NOT TOO FAT. Your guy is not going to care about the size of your thighs while your tenacious lips are working your magic on him. Being sexy is about attitude, self-confidence and feeling sexy inside.

IF YOU ARE AFRAID YOU MAY NOT LIKE IT, you may need to turn and face your own fears. Fear usually comes from the unknown. Go slowly and talk about your feelings and discover you really enjoy it.

IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE SIGHT OF HIS PENIS, then don't look! Turn out the lights and let your skills take over. Add in soft light. Try to gain a new appreciation for his penis. After all, it's permanently attached.

IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE WAY HE SMELLS,  then bathe before sex–together! Wash his penis for him and make sure you rinse him completely of soap (it tastes gross). Suggest a sensual shave to start him smelling even sweeter.

IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE TASTE OR TEXTURE, then mask it with fruit flavored lubes.

 IF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO START, you have already taken a giant step forward by reading this blog. Guys may not always tell you but most of them LOVE it when their woman initiates sexplay.

 Reveal Your Sexual Power

This blog is about empowering you to enjoy sex because you want to please yourself-not simply please your guy. You'll quickly discover that losing your inhibitions can be a liberating experience. Finding more passion in your life can bring more passion back to you. Giving new pleasure to the one you adore can multiply many times over. Whether you realize it or not, inner beauty radiates outward. When you feel good about yourself, your lover will feel good about you too. Take this opportunity to make a fresh start to reveal your full sexual power-and revel in it.

Good Sex Starts At The Lips

I mean communicating! Real, honest, open, two-way talk about what's on your minds. SINCE MANY ARE NOT VERY GOOD IN THIS DEPARTMENT, it may be up to you to break the ice. Remember that talking about sex does not ruin a romance, it rescues it.

Perhaps he is harboring issues about size, scent, taste, erection quality or ejaculation control! And you may have issues with dryness, discomfort or NO ORGASMS! Perhaps you are both ready for more ready oral sex, new positions, greater variety or even a vibrating sex toy!

TOUCH EACH OTHER WITH WORDS

Make your partner feel wanted, desired and loved as you stimulate a deeply intense connection. Try whispering one or two of these icebreakers reassuring that no one else will hear it:

-What would you like to try tonight?

-It turns me on to talk about fantasies. Tell me one of yours…..

-Can I tell you what turns me on?

-Do you like when I do this? Or this?

Once you break the code of silence, the words start flowing.

Try to talk sexy things outside of the bedroom! Try it over a romantic dinner, at a park or on a long walk. Places where you know you can't be overheard-unless that's what you want.

If you have trouble getting him to start a conversation about a particular subject, copy the topics out of this blog and set it out for him where you know where he will find it-in the BATHROOM.

A handjob/blowjob should not be a job. They should be a pleasure, as well as erotic, fun and fulfilling. They are the ultimate bond, and if they are not currently in your repertoire, you will find fresh inspiration as you get along. Why not check with your best friends and see what they know about the subject. Exchange notes on the subject. It's a good way to remind yourself what a wonderful pleasure we have all been given to enjoy. Not wicked. Not a sin.

 Penises are fascinating. Just like the vagina, penises have infinite variations in size, color and shape.Some are big, some are small, and some will surprise you by how big they become. Some are one shade. Others are not. Some get stiff and point to the sky. Others aim at your toes. Some have big heads. Others are knee-slappers. A few swivel around like human joysticks. Others veer to one side. A handful curve up like bananas. Others are straight as arrows. Many are circumcised. And all the rest are not.

 

 Penis Facts You May Not Know

Most guys naturally "hang" right or left. They say it feels more comfortable that way.

 Guys can keep an erection for 40 minutes. Even longer when they're teens.

 

Sex Toys Are Not Just A Girls Thing 

He will flip when you unwrap a sex toy you have selected just for him-or for both of you! These add-ons for hand-and blowjobs boost the sensations from your fingers, tongue and lips. The choices today are limited only by your own imagination. 

Vibrators: Almost all guys like the feeling of a vibrator at the base of his shaft or under his balls. Just pick up a small bullet or vibrator or cylindrical vibe and try these tricks:

-Run it on and around his nipples during your blowjobs 

-Tickle the tip of his nose

-Glide it against his tender spot, balls while you kiss his penis

-Lightly run it along his shaft, from tip to bottom

-Gently touch it to the head of his penis for only a moment

- Use it interchangeably with your mouth and hand

-Put a small vibrator against your cheek while you give him head

-Run it along his butt hole. Use lots of lube.

-Pick up two: let him play with one on you, too!

Penis Rings: These gadgets wrap tightly around the base of his penis to help him maintain a harder, longer-lasting erection. Note: Rings have a pleasure limit. Play it safe and don't let him wear it longer than 20 minutes at a time.

 Penis Sleeves: For a refreshing change of pace, warp him in a penis sleeve and glide this lifelike material up and down his shaft. Tip: if he is extra large, you can use it as a safety guard to keep his penis from going too far down your throat.

Edibles: Shape a piece of licorice over your teeth to blunt the sharp edges, and then go wild! It feels good to him and it's tasty for you. Or cover him  in fruit- flavored lub and have a party!

 

Tune In for More!

Handjob Extras Coming Up!

 

ORGASMS, ORGASMS!! ACHIEVE THE ULTIMATE CLIMAX-THE STRONGEST FEMALE STIMULATING GEL!

October 20, 2007

 

Back in stock, one of our top 10 best sellers in demand, so hurry for—-

The power of the V has arrived.  Liquid V is the strongest female stimulating product available in the market today. It is formulated to increase stimulation and blood flow to the clitoris and amplifies the strength of a female climax while producing a warm tingling sensation that women love.

Liquid V is a maximum topical gel that amplifies sexual pleasure for women immediately on contact, and is great for women of all ages.

Apply as small tear drop size to the top of the clitoris area and massage gently into the tissue. In just minutes this product will take effect and help increase blood flow and produce a warm tingling sensation to the area. If desired effect is not achieved apply another drop. You will begin to feel a tingling sensation in 1-3 minutes. Numerous women report increased sensitivity immediately. Caution: Exceeding the recommended dosage or improper application can lead to discomfort.

Frequently asked questions are:

Who can benefit from Liquid V? Any 3woman who wants to prolong her sexual pleasure, heighten her passion and enhance her desire for intimacy.

What does it feel like? When applied properly, it will cause a warm, tingling sensation and helps increase blood flow resulting in enhanced pleasure.

When should I apply Liquid V? It only needs to be applied a few minutes before sensual activity then it helps stimulate the clitoris by sending sweet sensations throughout the body.

 Are there any times when Liquid V should not be used? You should avoid this product if you are bleeding, pregnant or nursing. This product has not been tested under these conditions. This product contains L-Arginine which may effectuate herpethetic outbreaks in persons with herpethetic infections. If irritation or discomfort occurs discontinue use immediately.

 What if my intimate moments are already good? Liquid V can make your intimacy better. This product helps stimulate and heighten the sensitivity  in a  woman's erogenous zone by increasing blood flow. This also helps increase the strength of climax.

Treat Yourself To Something Intensely Pleasurable - A Toy Called the "Mini Mini Rabbit"

October 19, 2007

If you continued reading down my blog, most already know that I run the only interactive sensuality shop in town, located at Metrowalk Commercial Complex, Meralco Avenue corner Pasig.  "The Pleasure Place " is situated on the ground floor, discreetly and quietly tucked away along a corridor. When I ask people who mustered the courage to walk in and there are many, how they knew of the place, it's either they discovered it accidentally as they walk down the corridor or a friend told them about it. See, we do not advertise and have enjoyed a slow, quiet growth over the last four years. We are proud to say that we have a dedicated following who returns because of the comfortable setting we provide our customers. We are discreet, informative, educational, courteous and most of all, we never push anyone to buy anything.

Since our website is still in the works (it took us a long time to find the right people, but we finally found the best in town after much searching and discussions), I have decided to take a head start on introducing one of our best sellers, the Mini Mini Rabbit. It is a small clit manipulator shaped like a tiny rabbit. Its diminutive size might deceive you, but do not  be fooled by its stature.  It's a lion in a rabbit's clothing. Use the multi speed remote for big time pleasure and place the small pink toy on your clit and experience multiple orgasms.

 

This toy , like all other toys are not only used for solo, but for dual play. Ladies, you can place the mini rabbit on your clit while your partner penetrates you or any other position you may find comforatable and achieve what we call a "double whammy." This small toy is also used for body play such as your partner placing it on any part of his/her body that he/she may find stimumating.

Guys, many of you are threatened by your partner's use of a toy. Remember that very few of you are multi orgasmic or able to retain a hard on long enough to pleasure your partner endlessly….i know what most of you would say. But honestly, why would you deprive your partner of experiencing multiple orgasms while you penetrate her or long after you are spent? Look at this way. While she continues to pleasure herself, you can watch and enjoy your own porno. Start taking your own series of videos. You can replay and use it as an educational tool to further enhance your pleasures and later, watch your own porns. Why bother to watch other people when you know most of them are  faking their orgasms so you can get your money's worth?

Another fact that guys should know and accept as reality; most of the women who walks in to my place complains that you cant' find their G-spot or  do not spend enough time in foreplay. (Let's touch on this subject another time). Another fact that you should all know is that most women can't achieve orgasm without the aid of a clitoral stimulator.  I know this not because I am a therapist. I do not claim to be one and have not earned any degrees on this subject. I know because tons of women confide in me. They are not brave enough to confront or share this with their partners fearing it might hurt your feelings or deplete your egos.Be the true gentlemen that you are and let your egos go on a vacation for a couple of days. It's not about the size of your penis. It's about endurance and a continuing steady force your penis is not able to duplicate.

For your pleasure gentlemen, try placing the mini mini rabbit between your penis and testicles, or between your testicles and your anal passage. Check out a new sensation you never had before or feared using one thinking that it is abnormal or  that you are a sissy. Like many of you who are afraid or frightened to experience something new or unknown, hundreds of men are already in conversation with me as to the endless pleasures a toy brings to them and their partners. They have already advanced and enjoying so much sexual freedom and liberation.  Remember, this is the most elementary toy you are being introduced to. Begin to play with this little one and experience the start of a fantastic and fun bedroom romp. Join me in your next toy experience. It can only get better.

 For anyone interested in purchasing this hercules of a toy, please visit our shop or call 631-9788 for availability. We only have about 20 left. (It's counterpart is the Mini Mini Mouse in white and works exactly the same way). Both priced at 1,500 pesos. We will throw in the 2 AA batteries. It does not normally come with it. We do not have charge extra if you choose to charge it. Or you can call for delivery (and pay extra for freight) if you are still too traumatized to visit. The package will get to you the next day.

 For many of you who are still are too frightened to visit, e-mail me at eleanorleung@yahoo.com and I will try to answer your questions. Or, call me for an appointment. You will leave the place a different person, not necessarily having purchased a toy, but surely, with a more open mind to entitle you to more pleasures that are your birthright. 

 Tune in for your next lesson or adventure!

 

 

Who Do Women In This Town Dress Up For?

October 15, 2007

Thank God I am finally back. Took a couple of days to complete a course on personal make-up, specifically to camouflage imperfections, discolorations, etc. on our faces. I have long been an advocate on using make up as a daily ritual. In America, women dress up for themselves; in Europe, women dress up for men; in the Middle East, women dress up for other women because women become their eyes and ears to the male relatives via aunts, mothers, grandmother,s etc., more on the lifestyle on Arab men and women since a very good friend of of mine is Arab. So, how about the women in this town. Who do you ladies dress up for? Let me hear from you so we get a consensus. And for all of you out there who are interested in learning the techniques and acquiring a fantastic  professional product that is no bullshit (aren't we all tiered of over-hyped products that disappoints) to cover up those dark circles, redness, brown spots, moles, scars and achieve a porcelain and flawless like finish skin, please e-mail your addresses to me  at eleanorleung@yahoo.com. Will contact you as soon as my shipment from Holland comes in.

The Health Benefits Of My Thorough Bread !!

October 9, 2007

Hello, 

This is Eleanor. After reading through my own research, I have decided to nickname Thorough Bread as the "Miracle Bread."

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 I would like to thank all those who purchased a loaf of perhaps the most nutritious bread. And so happy that a large number are now placing orders regularly and reaping the fantastic benefits of Thorough Bread, thus, incorporating it as a way of life.

 I would like to give special thanks to two extraordinary young women from de la salle college, Alex and Sam, who up to this day continue to help me spread the goodness and benefits of this bread. They received a loaf as a gift and realized its nutritious benefits immediately. Soon after, Alex and Sam had spread the word at the Quezon City gym where they work out daily.

Like many good things that has come into my life, I was suddenly seated beside the beautiful, energetic and renowned writer Ms. JackieLou Blanco who has requested for an interview. Her article on Thorough Bread has impacted subscribers far and wide. Orders have been overwhelming and Thorough Bread is presently gaining momentum on its own merits.

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Many have read Jackielou's article and either text or e mailed for inquiries but have not had a chance to actually purchased a loaf. Nevertheless, the information I have researched on is for everyone in pursuit of a healthy lifestyle. Read on in the hopes that I have been able to share valuable information on the innumerable benefits of Thorough Bread. I have prepared a thorough research on every ingredient used in the hopes of being truly informative and educational. I realize that most of us lead busy lives so read in segments when you have a few minutes.

Many diabetics have called inquiring on the bread. Please read the report for it contains many information on the numerous benefits for people with diabetes.

Thorough Bread has many advantages over white flour because of the nutritious ingredients I have chosen to use. As to the fruits used on Inventor's Own (which contains 4-5 bananas depending on the size), or dried fruits like cranberries, raisins, dates, prunes, diabetics are allowed 3 small portions of fruits a day. Considering that a loaf of bread weighs about 3.0 lbs and eaten minimally because of its density, the amount of fruit consumed is negligible. Except for Inventor's Own which contains more molasses, maple and honey and a couple of tablespoons of brown sugar, all other recipes only have one tablespoon of each and no sugar added. Splenda can be substituted and is called Indulgence in the price list. (Note: In order for bread to rise properly, the right combination of sugar and a miniscule amount of salt is needed to make the yeast rise effectively. So, when splenda is substituted, a loaf will not be as large.

Munchen,which was originally formulated for myself is the most dense of recipes. It contains triple the flaxseed meals, bulgar cracked wheat, psyllium husks, sesame seeds, bran and oats. Perhaps because of its density or price (680/loaf), it is not as popular as the rest of the pack, although gaining popularity with serious health buffs who understands its nutritional benefits. This recipe appears much smaller in size since the weight of the ingredients make it difficult to rise. (Most of us have paid over 1000 pesos for a piece of cake that is loaded with sugar).

We should start to practice awareness whenever we purchase foods for ourselves and loved ones. Take time to read the ingredients contained in the food. As parents and responsible adults, we must educate our children adapt to healthy eating habits. This is accomplished through feeding them the right foods and educating them of their benefits. For we all know too well that bad habits grow up with us and for most, it is difficult or impossible to get rid of. Sadly, many of us tend to cheat ourselves knowingly by eating foods that are not good for us. We should all try to make bigger efforts to think before we choose those few seconds of satisfying our palettes with food filled with sugar, additives, chemicals, coloring and many others which terms we are unable to pronounce or care to research on.

Although most of the ingredients are listed in the attachment, many terms have not been expounded on for a thorough understanding of what you are actually benefiting when purchasing a loaf of Thorough Bread.

I hope to enlighten many of you as you read the information below:

Bananas
Bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose - combined with fiber.  A banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy. Research has proved that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout.  No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes.A banana can help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must for our daily diet.
According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND among people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana.  This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.
Forget the pills - eat a banana.  The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood (PMS).High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.
his unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it the perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.
200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.
High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.
One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey.  The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.
Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.
Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.
Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.
Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at work leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and crisps.  Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs. The report concluded that, to avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady.The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronic ulcer cases.  It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.
Many other cultures see bananas as a "cooling" fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers. In Thailand, for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.
Bananas can help SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer, tryptophan.
Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking. The B6, B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.
Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance.  When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be re-balanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.
According to research in "The New England Journal of Medicine", eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%".
Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out.  Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape.
A banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around.

Bran
Bran (unprocessed) is the course outer portion of the wheat or rye grains that is separated from flour by sifting or bolting. It is often added to bread in small quantities for nutritional enrichment, heartiness and flavor. It is also used to enhance bread texture.

Bran is one of the richest sources of dietary fiber. It is the indigestible outer husk of wheat, rice, oats and other cereal grains. At one time most bran was thrown out when grains were milled. Until the 1960’s when scientist published several reports which stated that bran and other types of fiber could prevent heart attacks, intestinal disorders, and cancers of the breast, colon, prostate and uterus. They developed these reports by studying rural Africans. These studies showed that diseases were rare among these people due to the large consumption of whole grains. Because of these reports and huge media attention, in the 1970’s bran became the fad. Huge amounts of bran were being added to everything. Bran was being added to bread, cereals, muffins, meat loaf and even baked apples.

Since this time researchers have learned more and more about the health benefits and hazards of using raw bran. They also have discovered that various types of bran have different properties and different functions. Researchers have studied wheat bran and determined that it is mostly insoluble, although it absorbs large amounts of water. When it is used in moderation, fibers help prevent constipation. But when used in excessive amounts can cause bloating and intestinal gas.

Wheat bran when used properly in a high-fiber diet can help prevent intestinal disorders, also because it helps prevent constipation; bran may also benefit people suffering from hemorrhoids. Oat bran is another valuable source of bran. Oat bran is loaded with soluble fiber, which is sticky and combines with water to form a thick gel. Researchers have reported that oat bran helps reduce blood cholesterol levels. It also improves the glucose metabolism for people with diabetes. This helps in reducing the need for insulin and other medications.

Researchers have also reported that rice bran also reduces cholesterol level. They are not sure if the benefit comes from the fiber in the bran or from the oil that is in the rice. All types of bran, as well as other high-fiber foods, play an important role in weight control by promoting a feeling of fullness without overeating. This may explain why people whose diets are high in fiber are lower at risk for obesity-related cancers and heart attacks.

When the reports about the benefits of bran were first published, people did not use common sense and used bran in excess amounts. People started adding three, four, and even more tablespoons of ran bran to their daily diets. Researchers quickly discovered that this caused aggravation to the bowels, which produced the inflammatory bowel disease. This is a condition in which the colon is inflamed and is inflicted with small ulcers. Also, the acid in raw bran enables the body’s absorption of calcium, iron, zinc, magnesium, and other important minerals. There have been several reports of severe bowel obstruction in people who have consumed large amount of bran. Researchers have decided that instead of taking raw bran, eat whole grain breads, cereals and other products that contain bran. These foods taste a lot better than raw bran and are more nutritionally beneficial.

Cranberries

Cranberries contain bacteria looking compounds that are believed to be helpful in preventing urinary tract infections, and scientists now think this same function may be useful in blocking the bacteria responsible for ulcers and certain oral bacteria that can lead to gum disease. Current research indicates that approximately 10 ounces of cranberry juice is needed daily to achieve the bacteria blocking benefits that ward off UTIs, ulcers and gum disease.
Cranberries contain no cholesterol and virtually no fat and are low in sodium.

Dates

Dates back more than 5,000 years and believed to be the first condiments as well as the first plants to be used as edible oil.

At 24 calories per date, they are virtually fat, cholesterol and sodium free. This very low calorie count and the vast amount of healthy substances make the dates the best nutrition for a diet plan menu. Eating dates can help you achieve the recommended goal for fruit servings each day. A single serving equals five to six delicious dates or 1/4 cup of chopped dates. They are high in fiber, carbohydrates, potassium, vitamins A1, B2, B3, B5 and contains more than 20 different amino acids.

These acids help you digest and assimilate carbohydrates easier and control blood sugar levels and fatty acid contents in your body. Selenium lowers the risk of cancer and heart diseases plus help to keep your immune system healthy. Since potassium is not stored in the body, and much is lost in perspiration, it must be replenished. As you consume potassium, you excrete sodium, helping to keep blood pressure down. As people age, their kidneys become less efficient at eliminating sodium. About a 400 mg increase in potassium intake has been associated with a 40% reduction in the risk of stroke. This roughly amounts to one additional serving daily.

Eating dates and drinking water is an ideal, natural way to replenish potassium. A serving of dates contain 240 milligrams of potassium or 70% of the recommended daily value. Bite for bite, they have three times the amount of potassium as bananas.
Dates also contain a variety of B-complex vitamins - thiamin, roboflavin, niacin, vitamin B-6. These vitamins help metabolize carbohydrates and maintain high glucose levels, fatty acids for energy and white blood cells. Magnesium is essential for healthy bone development and for energy metabolism. Iron is essential to red cell production. Red cells carry all the nutrients to cells all throughout the body. One serving of dates contain nearly a third of the recommended dietary allowance for iron.

Flaxseed

Flaxseeds lower cholesterol, protect against heart disease and control high blood pressure. Several studies indicate that flaxseed oil, as well as ground flaxseeds, can lower cholesterol, thereby significantly reducing the risk of heart disease. Flaxseed oil may also have a protective effect against angina (chest pain) and high blood pressure. In addition, a 5-year study done recently at Boston's Simmons College found that flaxseed oil may be useful in preventing a 2nd heart attack. It may also help prevent elevated blood pressure by inhibiting inflammatory reactions that cause poor circulation and artery-hardening plaque.

Flaxseeds also Counter inflammation associated with lupus and gout. Omega-3 fatty acids appear to limit the inflammatory reaction associated with these conditions. In cases of lupus, flaxseeds not only reduces inflammation in the joints, kidneys and skin, but also lowers cholesterol levels that may be elevated by the disease. Taking flaxseeds for gout may lessen the often sudden and severe joint pain or swelling that is a symptom of this condition.

Flaxseeds control constipation, hemorrhoids,and diverticular disorders. Because they are high in soluble fiber, ground flaxseeds can help ease the passage of stools and thus relieve constipation, hemorrhoids and diverticular disease.

Flaxseeds reduce cancer risk. The lignans in flaxseed appear to play a role in protecting against breast, colon, prostate, and perhaps skin cancer. In one study, prostate cancer patients who added about 3 heaping tablespoons of ground flaxseed daily to their diet, had more slowly-dividing tumor cells and a greater rate of tumor cell death than men who did not follow such a diet, after about 5 weeks.

The researchers found no significant difference in levels of prostate specific antigen (PSA), a protein in the blood which indicates prostate cancer progression, between the 2 groups - although men in the early stages of the disease experienced a trend toward lower levels.

Gluten

Gluten is manufactured from wheat flour that has been treated to remove nearly all of the starch, which leaves a very high protein content. Gluten is the protein in the wheat that makes the dough elastic and is used in small portions with dense, low-gluten flours (such as whole wheat) to increase volume and lighten texture.

Honey

Honey is helpful for healthy individuals and those with high cholesterol and type 2 diabetes.
In a series of experiments involving healthy subjects and those with either high cholesterol or type 2 diabetes, honey has proved itself the healthiest sweetener.

For 15 days, 8 healthy subjects, 6 patients with high cholesterol, 5 patients with high cholesterol and high C-reactive protein (a risk factor for cardiovascular disease), and 7 patients with type 2 diabetes were given solutions containing comparable amounts of sugar, artificial honey or natural honey.

In healthy subjects, while sugar and artificial honey had either negative or very small beneficial effects, natural honey reduced total cholesterol 7%, triglycerides 2%, C-reactive protein 7%, homocysteine 6% and blood sugar 6%, and increased HDL (good) cholesterol 2%. (Like C-reactive protein, homocysteine is a significant risk factor for cardiovascular disease.)

 

In patients with high cholesterol, artificial honey increased LDL (bad) cholesterol, while natural honey decreased total cholesterol 8%, LDL cholesterol 11%, and C-reactive protein 75%.

And in patients with type 2 diabetes, natural honey caused a significantly lower rise in blood sugar than either dextrose or sucrose (refined sugars). So, enjoy a little honey in your morning coffee, lunch time yogurt or afternoon cup of green tea. Looks like a daily spoonful of honey may help your need for medicine go down.

Although our food ranking system did not qualify honey as a dense source of traditional nutrients, it did emerge as a source of vitamin B2, vitamin B6, iron and manganese.

Molasses

Thorough Bread uses only black strap unsulphured molasses in every loaf.
Molasses is made from sugar cane, sugar beet, and citrus. It is most commonly made from sugar cane.

There are three major types of sugar cane molasses: unsulphured, sulphured and blackstrap. There are also three major grades of cane molasses: first molasses, second molasses, and blackstrap molasses.

When sugar cane is harvested, the leaves are stripped, the juice extracted by crushing or mashing, and then boiled and processed to extract the sugar. The results of the first boiling and processing is first molasses – this has the highest sugar content. The results of the second boiling is second molasses. Second molasses is darker in color and has a slightly bitter taste. Black strap molasses is from the third boiling.

Unsulphured molasses is the finest quality first molasses and is made from the juice of sun-ripened cane and the juice is clarified and concentrated. Sulphured molasses is made from green sugar cane that has not matured long enough and is treated with sulphur fumes during the sugar extracting process.

There are a number of different types and sources of molasses and some have already had the maximum amount of sugar removed and will therefore not be sweet. There are two main types of organic molasses: HTM (High Test Mollases) and Black Strap Molasses.

Organic Blackstrap molasses has a rich, full bodied flavor that adds natural color to food. It is the end product, or by-product, of the production of sugar and contains vitamins, minerals and trace elements naturally found in the sugar cane plant and is a good source of iron, vitamin B6, potassium, calcium and magnesium. Because it is an end-product all the ingredients, residues, and toxins in the plant can be concentrated in the molasses. For this reason it is important to purchase organic molasses.

For use as a sweetener, HTM molasses is recommended because blackstrap has a bitter taste.

Molasses is an excellent chelating agent. An object with iron rust placed for two weeks in a mixture of one part molasses to nine parts water will lose its rust due to the chelating action of the molasses.

Oatmeal

Comes from coarsely ground white or yellow corn and from rolled or steel-cut oats. They are used primarily to enhance the flavor and texture of the bread.

Oat bran is the outer casing of the oat. Its consumption is believed to lower LDL ("bad") cholesterol, and possibly to reduce the risk of heart disease.

After reports found that oats can help lower cholesterol, an "oat bran craze" swept the U.S. in the late 1980s, peaking in 1989, when potato chips with added oat bran were marketed. The food fad was short-lived and faded by the early 1990s. The popularity of oatmeal and other oat products again increased after the January 1998 decision by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) when it issued its final rule allowing a health claim to be made on the labels of foods containing soluble fiber from whole oats (oat bran, oat flour and rolled oats), noting that 3 grams of soluble fiber daily from these foods, in conjunction with a diet low in saturated fat, cholesterol, and fat may reduce the risk of heart disease.

Onions (Satin Bulb contains 5 hearty red onions)

Onions were cultivated in chinese gardens 5000 years ago and recorded as one of the earliest cultivated crops. It prevents thirst, is good for digestion, good for the heart, cure vision, joints, prevents hair loss, alleviate headaches, induces sleep, heal mouth sores, dog and snake bites, toothaches, dysentry and lumbago. Ancient Egyptians believed that their strong antiseptic qualities and strong scent and magical powers would prompt the dead to breathe again and the greeks used it to fortify athletes for the olympic games. They were also used as rent payments and wedding gifts.

Prunes

Prunes are dried plums which are specially grown for this purpose. Prunes are rich in iron and potassium. They are high in fiber and contain modest amounts of vitamin A, vitamin B3 and vitamin B6. Prunes are a valuable food for anyone suffering from high blood pressure and make an ideal laxative.

The high levels of fiber in prunes and the resulting laxative effects are well documented but the humble prune is also packed full of essential minerals and antioxidants. Prunes are particularly beneficial to the skin both in terms of preventing aging and general healthiness. However, the real beauty of prunes are that they are virtually fat free so you can eat as many of them as you like.

The fresh version (plums) and the dried version (prunes) of the plant scientifically known as Prunus domestica have been the subject of repeated health research for their high content of unique phytonutrients called neochlorogenic and chlorogenic acid. These substances found in prunes and plums are classified as phenols, and their function as antioxidants has been well documented. These damage-preventing substances are particularly effective in neutralizing a particularly dangerous oxygen radical called superoxide anion radical, and they have also been shown to help prevent oxygen-based damage to fats. Since our cell membranes, brain cells and molecules such as cholesterol are largely composed of fats, preventing free radical damage to fats is no small benefit.

Prunes' ability to deter oxygen-related damage to our cells is also related to their beta-carotene content. Prunes emerged from our food ranking system as a good source of vitamin A (in the form of beta-carotene)-just a quarter-cup of prunes will give you 16.9% of the daily value for vitamin A. Beta-carotene acts as a fat-soluble antioxidant, eliminating free radicals that would otherwise cause a lot of damage to our cells and cell membranes. Only after cholesterol has been oxidized by free radicals does it pose a threat to artery walls. The build-up of cholesterol in the artery walls forms plaques that can either grow so large they block blood flow or rupture, releasing a clot that can impede the flow of blood, and triggering a heart attack or stroke. Free radicals can also damage cellular DNA, causing mutations which, if serious enough, can result in the formation of cancerous cells. In addition, by causing damage, free radicals contribute to inflammation, which is one way the body clears out cells or other substances that have been damaged. In this way, free radicals increase the severity of a number of different conditions. This is why beta-carotene, which shuts down free radicals, has been shown in studies to be helpful for the prevention of a variety of diseases, including atherosclerosis, diabetic heart disease, and colon cancer, and why it has also been found useful for reducing the severity of inflammatory conditions like asthma, osteoarthritis, and rheumatoid arthritis.

Prunes are a good source of potassium, providing 9.0% of the daily value for this mineral in a quarter-cup. Potassium is an essential mineral for maintaining normal blood pressure and heart function. Since a quarter cup of prunes contains a whopping 316.6 mg of potassium and only 1.7 mg of sodium, those diced dried prunes on top of your breakfast cereal may help to prevent high blood pressure and protect against atherosclerosis.

The effectiveness of potassium-rich foods like prunes in lowering blood pressure has been demonstrated by a number of studies. For example, researchers tracked over 40,000 American male health professionals over four years to determine the effects of diet on blood pressure. Men who ate diets higher in potassium-rich foods, as well as foods high in magnesium and cereal fiber, had a substantially reduced risk of stroke.

In addition to these cardiovascular benefits, the potassium found in prunes may also help to promote bone health. Potassium may counteract the increased urinary calcium loss caused by the high-salt diets typical of most Americans, thus helping to prevent bones from thinning out at a fast rate.

Prunes are widely known as a good source of dietary fiber, a reputation that was confirmed in our ranking system in which prunes were found to supply 12.1% of the daily value for fiber in just a quarter-cup. The health benefits provided by prunes' fiber are substantial:

Prunes' soluble fiber helps normalize blood sugar levels by slowing the rate at which food leaves the stomach and by delaying the absorption of glucose (the form in which sugar is transported in the blood) following a meal. Soluble fiber also increases insulin sensitivity and can therefore play a helpful role in the prevention and treatment of type 2 diabetes. And, prunes' soluble fiber promotes a sense of satisfied fullness after a meal by slowing the rate at which food leaves the stomach, so prunes can also help prevent overeating and weight gain.

Prunes are well known for their ability to prevent constipation. In addition to providing bulk and decreasing the transit time of fecal matter, thus decreasing the risk of colon cancer and hemorrhoids, prunes' insoluble fiber also provides food for the "friendly" bacteria in the large intestine. When these helpful bacteria ferment prunes' insoluble fiber, they produce a short-chain fatty acid called butyric acid, which serves as the primary fuel for the cells of the large intestine and helps maintain a healthy colon. These helpful bacteria also create two other short-chain fatty acids, propionic and acetic acid, which are used as fuel by the cells of the liver and muscles.

The propionic acid produced from prunes' insoluble fiber may also be partly responsible for the cholesterol-lowering properties of fiber. By lowering the activity of this enzyme, propionic acid helps lower blood cholesterol levels.

In addition, prunes' soluble fibers help to lower cholesterol by binding to bile acids and removing them from the body via the feces. Bile acids are compounds used to digest fat that are manufactured by the liver from cholesterol. When they are excreted along with prunes' fiber, the liver must manufacture new bile acids and uses up more cholesterol, thus lowering the amount of cholesterol in circulation. Soluble fiber may also reduce the amount of cholesterol manufactured by the liver.

A study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine confirms that eating high fiber foods, such as prunes, helps prevent heart disease. Almost 10,000 American adults participated in this study and were followed for 19 years. People eating the most fiber, 21 grams per day, had 12% less coronary heart disease (CHD) and 11% less cardiovascular disease (CVD) compared to those eating the least, 5 grams daily. Those eating the most water-soluble dietary fiber fared even better with a 15% reduction in risk of CHD and a 10% risk reduction in CVD.

Lastly, the insoluble fiber provided by prunes feed friendly bacteria in the digestive tract, which helps to maintain larger populations of friendly bacteria. In addition to producing the helpful short-chain fatty acids described above, friendly bacteria play an important protective role by crowding out pathogenic (disease-causing) bacteria and preventing them from surviving in the intestinal tract.

The ability of plum and prune to increase absorption of iron into the body has also been documented in published research. The ability of plum and prune to make iron more available may be related to the vitamin C content of this fruit.

Psyllium Husk

Psyllium Husk is basically fiber as it is essentially made up of complex carbohydrates and is extracted from psyllium, a plant. It's the coating around the seed of the psyllium plant, so it's completely natural.

Psyllium seeds are used for other ailments. Psyllium husks are taken and inserted inside capsules, so that they can taken as supplements. Or they can be converted into powder.

Psyllium is important for many reasons. Since it contains carbohydrates, it can help diarrhea. It can also help ease the pain of hemorrhoids and cystitis.

Psyllium Husks have anti-inflammatory properties, and can be beneficial for those with diabetes. In some studies, it has been shown that Psyllium Husk can improve lipid control in Type 2 diabetes. It also:

- aid in weight loss control

- maintains healthy cholesterol levels

- maintains healthy blood pressure levels

- treat IBS, and hemorrhoids.

- treat yeast infections.

- it pushes out mucoid plaque.

Its main benefit, however is in preventing constipation and promoting colon health. The natural fiber in psyllium increases the weight of our bowels, and acts as a safe laxative. In fact, psyllium husk is present in many over the counter laxatives.

RAISINS

The health and nutritional benefits of sun-dried raisins range from the classic nutrients — such as natural sugars and potassium — to newly discovered antioxidant factors, factors which have found an important place in medicine and nutrition only in the last twenty years.

The natural sugars of raisins are a great source of energy and comes packaged together with fiber and other nutrients.

Many studies have shown the importance of diets with an adequate intake of potassium to help maintain normal blood pressure. Since raisins are high in potassium and low in sodium this makes them an ideal part of a heart healthy diet.

The fiber in raisins, combined with other food from plants high in fiber, helps to regulate intestinal function and proper elimination. Raisins like grapes are one of the few fruits that contain a reasonable level of tartaric acid that works together with fiber to help proper elimination and help keep the colon healthy.

The phenolic compounds in raisins are powerful, protective antioxidants. These compounds are one of the reasons why fruits and vegetables are considered protective against heart disease and cancer, including quercetin, a powerful antioxidant.

Raisins have been successfully used as part of diets to lower blood cholesterol and prevent its damaging oxidation.

Sesame Seeds

Sesame seeds are a good source of magnesium and copper, calcium, phosphorous, Vitamin B1, zinc and dietary fiber. In addition to these important nutrients, sesame seeds contain two very important substances: sesamin and sesamolin. Both of these substances belong to a group of special beneficial fibers called lignans (derived from plants and studies show that it may reduce the risk breast cancer) and has shown to have cholesterol lowering effect and to prevent high blood pressure. Sesamin has also been found to protect the liver from oxidative damage.

WALNUTS

Walnuts are the only nut that contain a significant amount of heart - healthy, omega-3 fatty acids, 2.6 grams per ounce, almost 9 times more than the next closest nut.

Walnuts are also known for their high antioxidant activity. Antioxidants help offset the effects of oxidation, a process that is constantly occurring in the body. The human body is equipped to deal with a certain level of oxidation. Naturally occurring antioxidant enzymes work to protect our cells and our DNA from oxidative damage. Oxidative stress occurs when the body’s natural defenses can’t keep up with oxidative damage. Daily events like breathing, eating, being exposed to cigarette smoke or pollution, and over-exposure to sunlight can all create oxidative stress. Some researchers believe that oxidative stress may contribute to cancer risk. One way to possible combat oxidative stress is to eat more antioxidant-rich foods, like walnuts.

Whole Wheat Flour

Whole wheat flour is milled from the entire wheat kernel, which contains the bran and germ. The high fiber flour is richer in nutrients than the all-purpose or bread flour. Breads made from whole wheat are usually smaller and heavier than white loaves. Thorough Bread is baked exclusively using whole wheat flour and unbleached white flour which is also known as red wheat.

Wheat flour is an excellent source of complex carbohydrates. Other than gluten flour, all types of wheat flour derive at least 80 percent of their calories from carbohydrates. Depending on the flour type, the percent of calories from protein ranges from 9 to 15 percent, except from gluten, which has 45 percent protein content. Calories from fat are never more than 5 percent.

In addition, wheat flour provides from 3g (cake flour) to 15g (whole-wheat flour) of dietary fiber per 1-cup serving. Wheat flour contains B-vitamins, calcium, folacin, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, zinc, minimal amounts of sodium and other trace.

Research featured as a cover article in the October 2006 issue of Diabetes Care highlighted the beneficial effect of a high-fiber/carbohydrate-rich meal for people with metabolic syndrome, a risk-factor for heart disease and type 2 diabetes. The study was led by University of Virginia researchers Glenn A. Gaesser and David Brock and commissioned by the Wheat Foods Council.

The study, which looked at 12 patients with metabolic syndrome, found that a meal comprised of high-fiber/carbohydrate-rich foods, including grains, may provide an immediate measure of protection against cardiovascular disease. At the same time, a single high-fat/low-carbohydrate meal negatively affected blood vessel health in the short term. Persons with metabolic syndrome are at increased risk of cardiovascular disease and other diseases related to plaque build-up in their arteries, as well as type 2 diabetes. The American Heart Association estimates that more than 50 million Americans have metabolic syndrome.

On separate days and in randomized fashion, Gaesser’s subjects consumed either a high-fat/low-carbohydrate or high-fiber/carbohydrate-rich meal, representing 15 percent and 70 percent of total calories, respectively. The high-fiber/carbohydrate-rich meal contained 19 grams of fiber (from wheat bran cereal and whole wheat bread); the high-fat/low-carbohydrate meal contained less than 1 gram of fiber. Using a high-resolution ultrasound technique, changes in brachial artery dilation in response to an increase in blood flow — an excellent barometer of blood vessel health — were measured before and after consuming the meal.

The high-fiber/carbohydrate-rich meal significantly improved vascular dilation capability. By contrast, the high-fat/low-carbohydrate meal significantly impaired the artery’s ability to dilate. These results indicate that meals high in fiber and carbohydrates can acutely improve blood vessel health in persons with metabolic syndrome, possibly helping to prevent cardiovascular disease.

Wheat has a very coarse texture and comes from wheat kernels cut into angular fragments. It gives whole grain breads a nutty flavor and crunchy texture.

"Proper Storage for the Bread"

 

Proper storage of the bread will help keep moisture and retain freshness for as long as three weeks. Slice the loaf in two equal parts. Re-pack each half in plastic bags and brown paper and seal tightly with rubber bands.  Better still, after proper packing as instructed, store in a vacuum tight plastic container.

Slice singly only when ready to eat. (Slice by using a bread knife or bread will crumble).

Ways to Eat the Bread:

Toast Lightly  or Microwave for 5-6 seconds

I Prefer to Eat "Inventor's Own" Straight Out of the Refrigerator

Most Breads Are Eaten Alone; You Can Try Any of The Following to Suite Your Taste Buds

With Butter, Butter and Jam for Nutty Fruitloops Combinations or Plain Power Play or Indulgence Power Play

or my favorite on Nutty Fruitloops Combinations is

Top a Slice with Honey and a Thick Slice of Parmesan Cheese (I am in Heaven) 

Inventors Own Is Best Eaten on its Own  

Brown paper or brown paper bags are great alternatives to store/freeze food/meat in the fridge and freezer.

 

Testimonials
 

"Hey Eleanor, my sister and I bought bread from your store last night and we finished an entire loaf in one seating. We loved it!  (Mej del Rosario)

"Finally, a non-commercialized true and real healthy option we can savor! Personally, everything came out as I expected it, the reviews, and the literature were a perfect description! As so, am very satisfied and cant wait to dessiminate your product to health conscious crazy family , relatives and friends which are a lot!" (Steve Chan) 

"My sincere praises indeed for a note worthy effort! Keep it up! Will be in touch!" (Steve Chan) 

"Inventor's Own  Simply Divine." (Lloni Bosano)

"Eleanor, I am so glad your plain loaf is more moist." (Alex) - I have a new delicious revised recipe that is a must try! And a substitute for your daily commercial white or wheat bread.

"Our topic for today was breakeven so she (the professor) started talking about Thorough Bread as an example because we gave her a half loaf last month. The whole class was so interested that it kind of ended up as a question and answer lecture about the bread itself! haha! Our professor was even encouraging us to inform our classmates about it!" (Sam, a student of the La Salle College)

 "My mom love the fruitloops and our professor awhile ago in school made Thorough Bread as an example for our discussion." (Sam)

!Just ate it plain (Power Play Plain). It tastes really good! But i think it would be great with scrambled eggs!" (Alex) 

"You know, I am on a weight loss program and I have been eating your bread for breakfast, lunch, pm snack, dinner and midnight snack for 2 weeks now. I have lost 4 pounds in a week and a half." (Candice)

"It was a pleasure meeting the creator of such a wonderful bread! All the best!" (Bill)

"Hi Ms. Eleanor. I had been sharing your bread with my health conscious friends and they loved it. Am glad to hear from you." (Carol)

"But it also tastes so good!" (Bill)

"My God! What you have is a cure for all in 1" (My father)

"I normally toast the bread and it's even more yummy and tastier." (Candice)

"Oh! Soo yummy! I'll have to lock my ref later so I won't eat too much (kidding) Hahaha! It's that good! (Alex)

 "I am so excited and looking forward to lunchtime so i can eat my bread." (Sam)

"Eleanor! Munchen is really great! What's the brown thing? Is there lotus flower in the bread?" (Alex)

"I am excited to get my Munchen as well." (Alex)

"I totally understand and am totally sold! I told Alex though you should come out with smaller loaves so its more affordable, more accessible to more people, especially this Christmas. And more informative product tags or literature. There are several clubs, gyms, wellness centers in the metropolis you may tie up with. There are a lot of like-minded people out there who would love your bread if they had access to it."m (Tina)

"Omg! I forgot to bring bread for my merienda! FIRST TIME I ATE WHITE BREAD IN 3 YRS! IT SUCKS!" (Alex)

"I am glad many have ordered. Thank you for allowing me to write about it." (Jackielou)

"Hi. This is Monica. We are still figuring out our lists but I will definitely keep your bread on the top of my list for food giveaway. It's the tastiest bread we've ever had!" (Monica)

"I'm so happy a lot of people are enjoying your healthy and nutritious bread." (Arlene)

"It's great bread tlg kse." (Arlene)

"Hi Eleanor. Your bread is a hit in the office." (Arlene)

“Eleanor, the girl who bought the last loaf  (Inventor’s Own) last night was a close friend of mine. We were talking about great diet styles when she referred your bread. She claims one slice of the loaf keeps her full for the whole day. So I bought myself one.” (Andrew)

 

Caution:  On those who talked about losing weight simply means eating a slice for breakfast or a small piece for snacks will keep hunger at bay, thus eliminating the need to binge on unhealthy food. But remember that eating too much of it will also contribute to weight gain since it is still carbs.  Try to eat plenty of fruits and drink plenty of water daily.

 

I hope to reach many more out there so that they too may benefit from all the goodness contained in a single loaf of Thorough Bread.

Due to the overwhelming orders, a schedule for pick up is in place.

FOR ORDERS PLACED BEFORE 12 NOON, PICK UP IS FOR 5PM AND THEREAFTER DAILY AT THE PLEASURE PLACE, METROWALK COMMERCIAL PLACE, GROUND FLOOR, BESIDE HBC, MERALCO AVENUE, PASIG CITY.
FOR ORDERS PLACED AFTER 12 NOON, ORDERS CAN BE PICKED UP THE FOLLOWING DAY AT 5PM OR THEREAFTER AT THE PLEASURE PLACE.
RESERVATIONS WILL BE ON A FIRST-COME, FIRST SERVE BASIS SINCE PRODUCTION IS LIMITED AT THIS TIME

***Smaller loaves will probably be out sometime next year . For now, we can split the loaves and package in the same fashion.

For those of you who are interested in giving a loaf of Thorough Bread as a "gift of health", please place your reservations early.

 Block Out Dates for Christmas:
 December 2, 3, 13, 14, 15, 19, 20

Do i Have Stories to Share…………

Hello to everyone out there. My name is Eleanor and i have decided to be heard. I have been back in town for four years and boy, do i have stories to share

 

 

Hopefully, this site will string together all of us to represent life and mankind as we all see it at the end of the twentieth century and hope to take your hearts and minds to certain moments of maximum emotional and creative pressure. This site will represent all of us - a wide range of men, women, children, young, old, fat, thin, affluent, impoverished, gay, straight or still working out the details, fit, disabled, those possessed of self-esteem or those who struggle to stay afloat from victim hood or abuse.

As a woman approaching two-thirds of my life and who has been through every imaginable fantastic and heartbreaking experience, I will try to capture the world together today with all of you through my newfound joy - sharing all I have learned through others and my own experiences - assuring that we make a continuous journey on this earth through compassion and kindness, making sure we leave behind something good for the next generation. Having said all that, let's leave the serious side for the meantime and begin to have some fun.

One of the more interesting things of what i do is that my partner and and I own a sensuality store, what most people call a "sex shop." It's called The Pleasure Place, located at the Metrowalk Commercial Complex, ground floor, right beside HBC on Meralco Avenue, corner Ortigas. It's been around for four years.

We also have a small branch at D'Mall New Annex, Station2, Boracay Island, and an upcoming branch to open its doors in Quezon City in March 2008. It is located on Tomas Morato, corner Monrdinian in a newly constructed three-story glass mall Called "La Terrezza's". We are located on the upper lobby.

The Pleasure Place was founded on the premise that there's more sexual pleasure available than most people experience, and that achieving this pleasure should not be difficult, dangerous or expensive. All you need is the openess of mind. The store's mission to to provide access to sexual materials and accurate sex information to combat the fear, ignorance, bias, and insecurity that prevent too many of us from enjoying the sexual pleasure that is our birthright.We have numerous customers telling us how refreshing it is to shop at a women-owned business, as they feel that our "clean, well-lighted" environment is equally appealing to men and women.

We are strict on the policy that no minors are allowed unless accompanied by a consenting adult. We take great pride in the revolutionary nature of our work. For one thing, we believe that sex toys are inherently revolutionary. Not only are they self-assertion tools-no dildo is ever going to pressure you into an encounter against your will-but when you plug in a vibrator, you are affirming that you deserve to experience pleasure for pleasure's sake. I am proud to say that The Pleasure Place is the only interactive sensuality store in the whole country. I am at the shop daily, mostly evenings till closing time at midnight.

I am there to greet our customers, prospective couples seeking new adventures,many who are merely curious, or those who finally braved their way in after several visits at the window. Sad to say, a large number of people, men and women alike, are still stigmatized about entering our place, much more being seen in there by friends or acquaintances. It is on this very premise that a whole chapter entitled Good Vibrations on Sex and Sexuality of this site will be devoted to creating a healthy sexual self-image and self-esteem. Clearly, self-esteem is an integral part of your sexuality. Self-acceptance is a pre-requisite for any intimate relationship-especially the one for yourself. Whether you are gathering the nerve to try a new sex toy or preparing to negotiate a sexual scene with a partner, the more confidence you bring to a sexual encounter the more likely you are to meet with success.

At The Pleasure Place, I have been able to witness first-hand how access to basic sex information and tools can benefit self-esteem. Check out the chapter on Adult Toys on which toy is best for you or for your partner. You may communicate with me through my blog and I will do my best to give you accurate information you are seeking and suggestions/recommendations if help is needed. If i cant do so, I will get back to you by doing some research.

 

What should I talk about first. I have my hands full of interesting projects, each one more interesting than the next. Before I proceed with what I believe will be the most interesting journey of my life, and that is to share the adventures of this site with all those who cares to join me, I would like to re-affirm that life can be extremely wonderful, useful, joyous, positive and miraculous.

Alas, it can also be painful, confusing, difficult, scary and frustrating. Most times, there are complex issues to deal with and obstacles to overcome on the way to achieving a spectacular life. The good news is that we all have the power to change ourselves and there is only one way to approach how you make choices about your life. By ensuring that your choices are true to your desires and are the best ones for you.