Fantasies! Let Your Mind Do The Walking!

They are called fantasies for a reason-they belong to a realm of the fantastic. Like dreams, they need not be safe, politicaly correct, or coherent. Because our fantasies can fall so far afield of what we would consider doing in our normal daily lives, many couples are reticent to share them with each other, out of fear they will be judged. They is nothing that that says you should divulge your fantasies, and for many couples, keeping them private is the very key to their erotic charge. Yet, many find that sharing their fantasies introduces new erotic terrain to explore mentally, or in some cases, physically.

Here’s one for ladies out there to practice on: Come on in to The Pleasure Place and purchase what Miranda in Sex in the City popularized–The Jack Rabbit. It remains our number one sell since we opened our doors almost four years ago. The rabbit is perhaps the best toy used for self-pleasure and for interactive play. It’s called the rabbit because the rabbit’s ears acts as the clit stimulator that has a constant vibration. This is attached to a dildo or penetrator that rotates and vibrates. It’s a a dual dynano that operates on 4AA batteries. 

Have a date with yourself and choose whichever fantasy pleases you. Whip out the Rabbit, place a condom on the dildo, dab some lub and fantasize that you are about to have someone make you come countlessly. Penetrate yourself with the dildo and when comfortable, turn on the vibrator. Feel the dildo inside and imagine the person you chose to fantasize with today. When ready, turn on the clit stimulator. Shake your legs to get your juices going and running. It sure helps increase your desire. Keep fantasizing the person who is giving you these wonderful feelings between your legs. Perhaps, after several dates with yourself and your imaginary lover, you have mastered the game of the rabbit. If you do have a partner, you are now an expert on putting your very own porn show to turn him/her on. Not only that, you will now have the expertise to teach your lover how to make you achieve multiple orgasms as he watches himself pleasure you with the Rabbit. 

Remember ladies, the Rabbit’s ears is not only your toy. Turn it on and place it on the tip of his penis, run it down his shaft and further down to the triangle zone-the “P” spot, his most erogenous zone located between his testicles and anal passage. Run it on his nipples or any part of his body that pleasures him. Place the vib on your cheek or under your chin and give him the ultimate pleasure of a blow job. You will have him come back for more.

These are some of the fantasies people share with me:

“i like to fantasize when I ‘m walking around, in public places preferably.That way I can use my mind and imagination to get myself so worked up that I almost come without touching myself. And when I finally get myself alone, it’s guaranteed phenomenal masturbation.” When one of my visitors at The Pleasure Place confided that she can fantasize and work up such an excitement, I am sure she is not the only one in town who does that.

Another says, “it’s hard to talk about fantasies or new things I want to try. I am usually afraid either that I will be thought weird or sick, and that he will turn me down.” Another story, “my partner has had a hard time feeling safe to divulge her fantasies with me because I have none to share in return, I guess because I don’t really fantasize.”

 So, a bit of research to share with my readers about fantasies. . .

You’ve no doubt heard that the brain is our largest sex organ, but it may never have occurred to you that it’s also an incredibly versatile sex toy. Without the brain responding to stimuli and sending messages to the rest of the body, we’d have about as much sexual feeling as pieces of furniture. But it’s the brain’s capacity to house a vast resource of erotic imagery, known as fantasies, that makes it a powerful sex toy, since fantasies can be endlessly trapped for sexual pleasure.

Sexual fantasies, simply put, are mental pictures that trigger arousal. Their content, importantance and purpose vary greatly from person to person. Some people summon them when they want to be sexual, some people find they have little control over how and when their fantasies emerge, while others don’t fantasize at all.

Fantasizing, like masturbating, is an act of self-love as well as an assertion of sexual confidence and independence. You are responsible for turning yourself on; you don’t have to wait for someone else to do it.

A fantasy can be anything from flashing on an act or image.

“making love on a sailboat in the middle of the ocean under the hot sun with a breeze blowing”;  or, witnessing your lover coming in from a hard day’s work, his ex waiting with legs spread wide on the floor facing the door-he tosses his attache carelessly to the ground, quickly unzips his pants and take her right there on the floor”,

 ”being watched in a clear glass in a very crowded lesbian night club while my lover and I are having very agressive sex. We can’t see or hear the women watching us, but know they are all getting wet and turned on by what they see.”

 ”my fantasy is taking a shower with my husband watching. Slowly shampooing my hair, rinsing, then with a sponge working the soap down my whole body, showing him all the area of my body, bending over, washing my feet, and the using the shower head to rinse off the soap. It ends with him towel drying me all over.”

a more forced encounter kind if fantasy…

“my favorite fantasy centers on forcing a powerful man to an unwilling orgasm. I don’t necessarily need to be the one doing the action, but I want to see him struggle against feeling pressure, fight his bonds, writhes and finally succumbs to a greater force than his own.

Most people use fantasies to increase their sexual arousal, whether they are enjoying (or anticipating) sex with themselves or with a partner. Some people have one reliable  fantasy that they call upon when the mood hits. Others maintain a ready supply of favorites, while other still make up new fantasies as they go.

Fantasies are powerful aphrodisiacs because they offer people a chance to enjoy sexual activities they might not usually experience, or necessarily ever want to. Just as many of us engage in nonsexual fantasies (daydreaming), like living in a foreign land or being rich or famous, so too can we enjoy the thrill of some chance sexual encounter brought to us courtesy of our imaginations. For most of us, the knowledge that we won’t engage in these activities in our real lives only adds to the erotic charge of our fantasies. 

Whether it’s explicit or vague, short or long, kinky or common, if it gets you hot, it’s a fantasy. Try to use your brain to discover fantasies of your own!